How To Turn A Stranger Into A Friend


I often stress the importance of expanding one’s social circle in my “Smart Dating Course”, and my dating blog column.

So today, I am going to teach you how to turn strangers into friends. Use these tips to expand your social circle.

When you meet a new person (male or female), try to:

1) Start with a bit of fluff talk.

“Yeah…it sucks to wait in line, doesn’t it.”

“So why do you have a laptop with you?”

“What do you do?”

2) Act impressed by them, no matter what they tell you.

“Really? I have always wanted to become a…”

“Really? My friend Joe is a <insert profession> too…Maybe you’d know him.”

3) Ask them for their expert opinion in their field.

“So what do you think of…”

4) Now go deeper in the conversation by figuring out who they are and what they want in life.

Do you think you see yourself doing this in five years?”

5) Encourage them to go after what they want.

“I think you should…”

6) Demonstrate a bit of social proof by talking about some adventures you’ve had in the past.

“Yeah. I am just back from France.”

“Totally. It’s like the time I went sky-diving and…”

7) Find out their hobbies. Search for something in common.

“Really? I love running too. Are you doing the sun run?”

“Really? I do Yoga too. You ever done it in the steam room before? I almost fainted the
first time I tried that.”

8) Bring the spotlight back to them. Let them know how much you believe in them.

“You know…about what you said earlier…
I really believe in you…”

9) If you have any information or contacts that can help them get what they want, offer it.

“If you ever need any help, let me know.

I know a couple of people in the business…”

10) Suggest doing that something in common. OR if you have an event coming up, invite your new friend to come.

“Come join my group for <insert event or hobby> some time. The people are great. I think
you’d like it if you really like <insert thing>.”

Now go out and start meeting some new friends!

Now that you know how to turn a stranger into a friend, how would you like to learn how to turn a friend into a girlfriend on adultfrinendfinder? My “Smart Dating Course” has a special appendix on just how to do that.